Re: child abuse, depends a ton on where she resides. Get some legal advice ASAP.
I agree with the other advice. Saying something along the lines of "my choices are mine. I do appreciate respectful advice. But, threats and intolerance are not acceptable and I won't have anyone in my life who chooses that route."
I stopped talking to my mom for several years when she wasn't being very helpful in some difficulties I was going through. Sometimes that's what is required for people to get beyond their own hang-ups to put more value on the relationship than moralizing.
Male, Straight, Poly
“Instead of getting better and better at avoiding, learn to accept the present moment as if you had invited it. And work with it instead of against it. And making it your ally rather than your enemy.”