Hi Tosca, I'll be very interested to follow your progress! My partner T and I are in a similar situation.... living abroad, working together, money stress, which definitely puts a strain on the relationship and helps to kill romance and spontaneity... especially if you don't work at it. Communication reached a low point where we were pretty much not talking at all about anything other than work and subjects that didn't touch on how much pain we were both in. I left for a while, and am not living at home at the moment.
Good luck to you.... look forward to reading more!
The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
~ Anais Nin