Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG
Every movie needs a supporting actor! I like my role and think it suites me well. Redpepper's husband is the lead man in her life but I will do my best to support him. Maybe I'll even get an Academy Award
While my professional life tends to put me in lots of leadership positions, I find my personal life (and my love life especially) ends up with the "always the bridesmaid and never the bride" dynamic. I tend to be the support system for a lot of people in my life. It feels even more so in the poly dynamics I've had so far, always being secondary with no primary of my own. I'm working on recognizing and dismantling the shit that I do to create that situation in my life.
I'm kinda tired of that and wouldn't mind being first for someone for a change. It's not happened for me yet and sometimes the patience is harder to keep than other times (I'm fucking 36!), but I haven't exactly lost hope yet.