I actually got with my partner before telling her about me being poly. I'm surprised she wasn't scared off when I did. I definitely think it would be hard for anyone to get into a relationship when they believe you are off limits though, so even asking straight up is always better than nothing. But surely you'd want to get to know someone before getting with them right? They would probably feel the same way. Talk to them, let them know who you are... Then if you get along well or fall in love and all that mushy stuff, ask them out. Me though, I prefer the just let it happen route. I make friends and talk about myself, but I don't really ask anyone out. I haven't done that in years. I'm only 19, but it really seems kinda childish does the whole asking out stuff.
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