Scare 'em or just be friends?
I was having a chat with my boyfriend yesterday and we were discussing the small issue of terrifying someone (unfamiliar with polyamory) away with questions like 'do you want to be our girlfriend/boyfriend?' etc. His reply was that you don't ask that question, you just kinda let things happen - however, I don't really see how you can do that, since surely they will assume you are off-limits and will moderate any possible feelings as such? Basically, how do you not terrify a potential lover, without, alternatively, ending up in the dreaded 'friend-zone'? 0.0