I am right there with you on the part about trying to figure out what to say to that "friend." I have one too. Husband is fine with it, "friend" seems to be open to the idea of
something, and I have no idea how to start this conversation! I have no advice other than that you're not the only one in that particular boat. I know that just knowing that has made me feel a lot better since I started reading this forum.
If anything comes to you, could you let me know?
