Hey, RP, JohnnyAce's post reminded me of something in my life I haven't thought of in a long time.
My mother and I were completely estranged for 10 years, because I wouldn't change my life to conform to her requirements. (Sound familiar?)
After that, we had a strained relationship for several more years. Now we're not only reconciled, we live next door to each other.
I still have to maintain firm boundaries with her, but we have a much better relationship than I could have expected.