Originally Posted by saevuscorvax
The hurt is coming from the physical inability to please one another. We are both very sexual, physical communicators, so it is almost as if our tongues have been cut out.
This is why alternatives are being suggested. Not because we don't get it, but because you're saying you can't fix the hurt if you can't be physically intimate (in your usual penis/vag way). We are suggesting other ways to be physically intimate.