Originally Posted by kingtone
Our rhythm has been settled around her husbands reactions, its fine for him to spend as much time as he can with his GF but when it comes to our time, he restricts it. We can't even go to the movies at full peak times because he's worried some one might see us together.
This isn't fair. Can he go to the movies with his gf at peak times? Is he afraid of people seeing him with his gf? Perhaps he feels studly to be seen with another woman, but diminished if his wife is seen with another man. This is sexist, of course.
Since this couple has a history of cheating previous to opening their marriage, they do have some trust issues to work out, I would think.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place. --Shaw
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