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Old 05-19-2011, 03:35 AM
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When people first start dating and "going steady" as kids, we make tons of mistakes and have lots of confusing feelings. I think we attribute those missteps and feelings only to "being young" when, in fact, they are also about our inexperience. Deciding to be ethically non-monogamous or polyamorous is like having to learn to date all over again... only this time, we mistakenly believe as adults we shouldn't have to go through the same learning process (with mistakes!) again. We do. So, when I struggle with feelings I don't understand or thoughts I can't communicate, I remind myself that I'm still learning how to do this the way that's right for me and those I'm involved with.
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