Sinew, when I read your post last night I was going to answer but didn't because I was on my little phone. But now, I just want to say "Thank you" for your list. I think it is wonderful -- and timely. If you don't know my story, I am going through a divorce right now and have to relearn how to be independent.
Recently, on another thread, I had posted about the difference between submission and surrender. And it got me to thinking about what I needed to surrender to in my life. What I came up with was I need to "surrender to my independence." But I also said to myself, "Okay... good... but how?" And then a day or two later, here is your post! The universe really does give us what we need! Thanks!
The world opens up... when you do.
Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me. ~Bryan Ferry
"Love is that condition in which another person's happiness is essential to your own." ~Robert Heinlein