Originally Posted by RobFire
My advice would be to make the mental association when you are with your new lover to the fact that your being with them is a testament to the love and gift your primary partner is giving.
Yes! This is a good association to keep in mind.
When we started our V I was so giddy with NRE, I said to my bf, "I have just never been so happy!" I was bubbling over, positively BEAMING.
He laughed and then looked very sternly into my eyes and said, "And WHO deserves the credit for this???"
And I sheepishly smiled and said, "Yes, I know -- my HUSBAND!"
My bf is incredible for always reminding me of this, how terrific my husband is and how we must always be respectful and considerate of his feelings.
I couldn't wait to get home and smother my husband with kisses of gratitude and love. Which....helped a lot