The more I think of it (and by reading these posts), I think I'm completely normal, too. Its nice to have like-minded people around on this forum and not feel so hush-hush to talk about it (unlike my guy is and wants me to be). But in my real life, I've discovered that two of my friends are as open as me about having conversations about sex. One is male and one is female but they don't know each other. All three of us are married but unhappy with how the married sex life turned out. I think people just get frustrated because unless they've crossed that verbal "it's okay" boundary with another person, they can't really talk about the things that matter most.