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Old 05-14-2011, 10:32 PM
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Well, perhaps you shouldn't be asking for what you want. Instead, tell him what you need.

Be loving but firm. Don't approach it like, "Gee, this is what I want, um, will you change, please, and give it to me?" >>squeak, squeak, little mouse<< Approach it like, "Certain things are unacceptable to me and need to change. I cannot live like this anymore. Let's figure out how we can work together on this." <<Lioness's roar>>
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
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