Originally Posted by slm
I canít figure out, either, if this is extreme compersion or rather self-interest. Maybe itís a mixture of both.
I'm also going with a yes to both.
As well, it sounds like you're looking for him to be more independent, and this could be a way for him to do that.
However, don't assume that in order to get your alone time or for him to be more independent he needs to be sleeping with others. Encouragement to take up hobbies or make friends or get involved in the community are equally valid ways of taking the pressure off of you to be his sole entertainer.