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Old 05-13-2011, 03:40 PM
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Erin, I think seeing a sex therapist could be a great way to get to know yourself. I am wondering why the notion of sex addiction has been brought up, though. You said in your other thread that you and your husband have sex once a month, and only if you initiate it. Is he guilting you or trying to convince you that you're a "sex addict" simply because you want sex more often, and brought up the idea of polyamory a few months ago?

I would hope that for you, a sex therapist could help you learn ways to satisfy yourself and perhaps relate to your husband in a way that heals whatever's going on with him, if there is some issue. He might just be someone who has a naturally low libido. Or maybe it is a medical problem. So, I would also think that sex therapy would benefit him, too - would he consider going as well? And maybe there is a chance that he would be open to poly at some point, if you both start talking in therapy about how this is affecting the relationship.
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