Originally Posted by Masquerade78
I'm also fiercely aware that I don't want to hurt him and I'm feeling guilty for emotions toward another man, but it seems to be better to be honest and accept that these feelings exist, rather than try to bury them x
I kept my feelings secret from my wife for more than a decade, and it made me miserable, ate alive with guilt (despite never getting physical with anyone), shame, self-hatred, and a feeling that I didn't deserve her. It came to permeate every waking moment, and was always in my mind, spoiling (for me) otherwise wonderful time we spent together.
Bottling this up will drive you apart, not keep you close together.