if only love didn't feel so complicated, most of us have had monogamy drilled so deeply into us that any alternative makes us feel selfish or wrong. it takes great courage for everyone outside the "norm" to admit it and even more strength to live a life that is our own. besides why have the cake at all if you're not allowed to eat it
as someone who only recently has truly admitted who i am and what i want in life i've found two quotes very reassuring.
"Well behaved women rarely make history." Laurel Thatcher Ulrich
"Every women is a rebel, and usually in wild revolt against herself." Oscar Wilde