I’ll spare the details, since I think it’s more the results that matter now. We survived the initial steps, and were able to carry on building our relationship with each other, and our larger tribe once I returned home. It wasn’t without difficulties, but I don’t think it was ever traumatic either. I think everyone was interested putting forth their best effort to make the respective paramour and metamour relationships work. I’m currently very much in love with my gf. I find her partner very accommodating and easy to get along with as a metamour. My wife continues to astound and amaze me She’s horrible for never giving proper credit to, or acknowledging herself for the effort she’s put into this process, and the hurdles and challenges she’s successfully overcome in this journey. And while we sometimes get back into doing our own things, I find we’re still very much attuned. And as we settle into a kind of routine I find we’re really getting to enjoy our home family more. Her gf is a whole other set of awesomeness, but I don’t worry too much about seeking out time to develop that metamour relationship since I know she’s pressed for time, so I’d much rather my wife have time with her love, rather than me.
On St-Paddy’s day, my gf and I went out to celebrate our 1 year anniversary of our first tentative meeting and frank discussions...the beginnings of our relationship. (I guess I’m a little late posting this...but only by 2 months….since this blog started with a 5 year lag, I think I’m catching up! )
That will more or less wrap up the story of how I met my gf, and started walking down this poly road. I’ll try to revisit things from time to time, since there are still things about communication, being the operator playing telephone, maintaining connection, coming out, etc. that I will still want to talk about from time to time.
But in the meantime, I’m quite content, and ready to switch some of my focus and energies away from searching in vain for elusive poly partners, and work a bit on the families, the home, the local poly community, and myself. As usual my wife knows more about me than I do sometimes, and she’s pointed out that there’s still missing something in my life. I need a new project. A new focus. I could go back to an old one like gaming...but my job has gotten me used to playing games for real. So onto new projects it shall be...which should entertain her to no end, since apparently she thinks I’m funny looking when I’m fixated on new subjects. (Why So Seeerios?!)
Or is it just that she thinks I look funny?