Thanks for the info GreenEyes... I believe she does actually want to loose it.
I have never brought her weight up at all to her, until she started complaining herself.
The only problem I have with it, is that it has limited our sex life since she now has very little energy and there are positions we used to enjoy that are now off limits. That and the fact that she just gave up on hair, makeup, nice clothes since I guess she figured, I"m fat what's the point.
As for me saying ... YOU MUST DROP THE POUNDS.... I never have and never will. I just offered help and encouragement after she started complaining about it.
I actually like a few extra pounds on a woman. It's only when it started affecting her health and our sex life that it became a problem for me.