Originally Posted by Magdlyn
But it seems biology is against those that attempt swinging, FWBs, NSAs, and even unicorn type arrangements. It's well known that having sex with someone causes a release of oxytocin, which is the primary hormone involved in mammal bonding. How can we fight nature?
Care to elaborate on the unicorn type-arrangement? Are there like primarily sex-motivated unicorn arrangements out there
Originally Posted by AutumnalTone
Fucking doesn't require any emotions. It only requires some bit of lust.
I sadly pretty much don't come at all if I don't feel passionate about my partner
. Which would make a worthless swinger. However, even when there is no passion, there can be giving and tenderness which motivates me enough to have sex with someone - for the sake of bonding, sharing, and yes, sometimes just to alleaviate a physical need the other person has. But lust is not my primary motivation those times and I would never do that for just someone, because what I get out of it are precisely those oxytocins and warm fuzzy feelings.
I think there are quite a few folks out in the New to Poly sections with 'OMG, we tried an open relationship/swinging and then shit hit the fan and love feelings happened'
-experiences. I personally prefer to stay out of 'we can never have an actual relationship, but let's have lots of HAWT sex instead'-arrangements, because frankly, then the sex isn't so HAWT for me anymore.