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Old 05-10-2011, 09:56 AM
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Originally Posted by Masquerade78 View Post
I'm also fiercely aware that I don't want to hurt him and I'm feeling guilty for emotions toward another man, but it seems to be better to be honest and accept that these feelings exist, rather than try to bury them x
What immediately came to my mind in reading the above sentence of yours is this: Loving someone is nothing to be ashamed of. It is the highest, purest expression of being human. So, hold your head high. You are human and have feelings, it's that simple.

It's the contracts we make that can be unreasonable and create problems. Fear of losing someone indicates attachment and possessiveness. He needs to feel secure in your love for him, so he can do away with wanting to hold onto it (you) and know you will be with him of your own accord. With compassion and honesty, it will work it all out.
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