Originally Posted by PixieChick
That's exactly where I am at. My husband has no qualms about letting me have nasty sex with multiple guys, passing me around among all of his friends. And sure, at first there was an element of excitement. But I'm over it too, because it's kind of played out -- I'm tired of putting on a show for his gratification, I want some connection, I want it to be about ME and what I want sometimes, and that involves a connection. However, at the first hint at any emotional connection -- a penpal of mine that I have a lot in common with, even -- he gets insanely jealous and acts all possessive and like THAT is crossing the line.
Not saying you being passed around is right or wrong.. or anything..
I will comment that some people fear the intimate emotional connection and some fear the sexual connection while others fear both.
He may be terrified of your emotionally cross the line and never coming back to him.
While this forum doesn't represent the mentality at all.. fucking is much easier for the average person than love. I sometimes think people forget this "love bubble" is actually pretty small.