Wise words redpepper.
I'm thankful every day that my wife's lover is 6 hours away. We are so new to this, and I'm still mentally adjusting, that I know it would be too soon if she just up and said "here he is, lets move him in".
But surprisingly (or not) we've discussed it already, lol, just as you said, NRE causes people to think that it will be good all the time and ignore the possible bad outcomes and consequences.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.