Originally Posted by OshunsDaughter
Wow, you all couldn't have a 'sit down' to talk. Everyone go out to dinner, a neutral spot, maybe in the back room of a restaurant? Just saying
Believe me, I wish
we could have. It would have been uncomfortable, but I think it would have calmed a lot of fears. But by the time I got the guts to directly discuss what I was hoping for--even with Ella alone--it was over. And frankly, I'm not sure Ella would have consented to a discussion like that even on a good day, and there's no way Ben would have gone along with it if he sensed Ella was at all unhappy with the idea.
At this point, I think it's just too late--I couldn't do the wait-and-see sorta-breakup, so I finally just called it. That was a month ago, and I haven't spoken to either of them since. And even if we did speak, in our last email conversation, Ella expressed a desire not to discuss what went wrong (she didn't feel it would help anything), which puts a pretty solid end to the conversation.