Originally Posted by LovingRadiance
This might seem off the wall-but has he ever been evaluated for ADD?
The problem with this is that some people find out they have ADD and then that becomes the excuse for their irresponsibility: "Aw shucks! It's that pesky ADD acting up again!"
I don't know the OP, but from what she wrote it looks like he has just gotten used to having her do all his thinking for him about mundane stuff he just can't be bothered with because it takes away from the energy he has to devote to his extracurricular activities.
In other words, the OP has THREE kids, not two.