This is a sad story indeed - it really gave me a glimpse into the way that a third person can feel when things go wrong. Being the female member of the established couple, this entire thread has got me thinking pretty seriously about some of my feelings toward Anne and about the relationship as a whole.
I can't imagine hurting Anne the way you've been hurt, different factors involved or not. I'm so sorry you went through this, and thank you SO MUCH for sharing your experiences. A definite eye-opener.