Last Friday my gf's bf, M, was going out of town for 24 hrs with his gf L. My gf was asked to come over for the night to dogsit. She invited me to come along.
We got to M's place at 4. He and L were still there, as was a friend of theirs they were going to travel with. M gave me 2 big bear hugs when we got there. He's such a nice gigantic guy. 6'5" and burly, quite like a huge bear.
For a while, as L packed, M was showing the other friend how to play Portal. Then he sat down on the couch where my gf and I were sitting and pulled her onto his lap. After 10 mins or so, he got up, changed his clothes and they were ready to leave. M gave me another huge hug and a kiss on the cheek (he and my gf went out into the foyer for their clinch). They left.
Then my gf told me, and showed me, that while she was on his lap, M had bitten the back of her shoulder, hard, leaving a mark. As a masochist, she was thrilled. I felt odd to find out he'd bitten her while sitting next to me on the couch, as his gf and their friend wandered in and out of the room.
Also, it got the night off to a weird start, as it felt to me like he'd "marked" her on purpose before he left.
So, their place was a huge mess as usual, and my gf had to do 2 loads of dishes, 2 loads of laundry, declutter and vacuum. Plus walk the dog. First off, I went out with her to walk the dog, then I just sat there watching TV (granted, that was fun, as their HDTV is huge and one of my favorite movies [Sid and Nancy] was on, then Red Sox) while she cleaned. But it felt odd, to see her at her work as a domestic slave, knowing it pleases her to take care of her bf's apartment... it made me feel kind of left out and unimportant and superfluous.
She also had orders to go the the grocery store and pick up a couple items for M. So we did that the next morning.
I got to feeling distant from her that night and into the next day. I really felt frozen. I didn't have any idea I'd feel that way. It wasn't jealousy. I am glad M provides something I can't give her. Altho when we were driving to his place, I said, "I feel weird about this because I don't understand your (hers and M's) relationship." And my gf said, "Neither do I." heh
I got over my weird feelings by Saturday night, we had our usual great connection, movie, dinner, cuddles, sexy times.
Anyway, comments are welcome... I just thought it might interest some to read about how my gf and I have an egalitarian relationship (with some kinky sex play) and how she also has a Master (novice tho M is).
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37