Wow - you need communication every day from someone you're just starting out with? I would think that's a big demand to lay on someone when you've only had one date/meeting and are just getting to know. I mean, it's still just the dating phase. You can just enjoy it for a while, can't you?
For me, personally, that's a big demand, since I don't need to hear from someone every single day, just every few days is good for me. Or it's something I see as needed for a solid, "serious," more committed relationship, rather than something new. I wonder if you're just feeling frustrated from your other relationships and feeling like now you need to set this kind of "rule" (for lack of a better word). If that's the case, it's more of a reaction than a need, don't you think? What about letting the relationship itself set the tone for frequency of contact? You might find you don't want to hear from this one every day, LOL.
Anyway, I would say, just take to time to get to know each other and enjoy the date, his company, etc. If talk turns to what you're looking for in a long-term committed situation, then bring up the fact that you like consistent steady communication and see what his response is. Does he know you are poly?
Last edited by nycindie; 05-03-2011 at 11:55 PM.