Originally Posted by curiouslez
Is it wrong or unfair to say that I can only be with a guy if he and I also have a woman in my/our life at the same time??
It sounds to me as if you're defining yourself as a lesbian, and think that you'd be "letting the side down" if you were to have a hetero relationship without
being attached to a woman at the same time. Have I read that all wrong, or what?
If I got it half-way right, here're my response: Be fair to yourself
, define yourself as a human being, fall in love with / have a relationship with whomever (and however many) you want... and be happy