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Old 05-02-2011, 08:09 PM
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Originally Posted by SvartSvensk View Post
. . . she wants me to go so she can process. Kinda feels like she's kicking me out of the house, but not entirely.

I've refused to go, so that we can sort things out and work on us. I think its important, but she definitely needs to learn to process jealousy, because she can't seem to shake it.
Originally Posted by SvartSvensk View Post
I stayed, and I felt torn about it. Still do.
Wondering why you couldn't give her the "alone time" she wanted?

I often process my feelings much better on my own than when someone is there asking/expecting/forcing me to look at stuff on their terms and not in my own way. Did you feel that staying to "sort things out and work on us" was the only way she should handle her emotions and reactions? Or were you just feeling rejected?

Personally, I can really understand and identify with G's need to be left alone. Solitude can be very healing.
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