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Old 05-01-2011, 08:34 PM
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Originally Posted by islandgy9 View Post
Be that as it may, possibly identifing the source of abandonment issues does little to solve the problem.
Well, regarding looking at the past and the patterns we carry with us -- the "solving" comes from just knowing where it possibly came from, which helps to see the current situation more clearly. Knowing we have a predisposition toward a certain type of reaction helps us gain objectivity and to be able to say, "Hey, this situation today is not the same as the situation from the past. I don't have to react the same way." We can start to see things for what they are instead of through the lens of our past experiences. Determining where patterns originated simply gives us more awareness and more choices, and is often enough to set us free.
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