You read my statement backwards, lol. I said:
I was asking for claarification re the "it's not poly if it doesn't involve intimacy" bit.
I believe that it's possible to go past friends and into "involved in the relationship" without involving physical intimacy. Less involved than would be otherwise to be certain - but with Lana in our situation for instance, the PHYSICAL intimacy is almost nonexistant, whereas with Anne it is very much part of our interactions all around. While Lana isn't considered part of our triad as such, she is absolutely part of our defacto family - couldn't have it otherwise if we tried, lol!