OK. So I thought maybe it's time to start a blog on here, though I may or may not update it super often. But there are some things going on that don't fit into the seperate thread thing, and things that only people here might appreciate!!
So I'm going to do this a little at a time. A brief intro...
I'm 43 years old, married and have two kids (not by my current hubby) who are 18 and 15. He has a 14 year old daughter who will be living with us before the next school year, but currently lives with her mom.
I've been nonmonogamous (I use the generic term because it fluxuates between true poly and more... not.
) for 15 years, since my relationship with my ex. It didn't work out with him, but not because of that. It didn't work out because of a whole host of other issues that had I paid attention I would have noticed before we got married.
But we made two beautiful children, so I can't complain.
My current hubs and I have always been nonmonogamous, though he was a little less honest when I met him. I first introduced the concept of ethical nonmonogamy to him, but it took a few years for him to overcome the fear of the truth and get with the game. We had a few scuffles early on because of this, but at some point we have worked through it, though we continue to have an issue here and there to deal with.
I have ventured out a lot less than hubs. Mostly because a) I have MUCH less time on my hands, and b) I am more introverted, and take time to warm up to someone enough to want to get nekkid. Hubs is more extroverted and connects with people faster.
Currently he is stationed (he's military) across the country, so we-- yet again-- are seperated by distance. Blyeah. But wierdly enough this time apart has been a learning experience. We ended up reconnecting after having pulled away from each other for various reasons, and are now actually in a whole new nice world when it comes to honesty, communications, and meeting each others' needs.
It's a work in progress. But I'm okay with that!