Originally Posted by Myzka
so have they actually met already?
I mean, instead of waiting longer, what if they just meet over coffee or tea and chat? no sex, no expectations for anything futher, but just to see if the two actually click on any level?
No, they haven't met already. He keeps going back and forth on it, partially because of how I have been behaving. I think a lot of it has to do with the Dr Jekkyl/Mr Hyde thing I've had going on this week. I feel like a looney bin. I'm fine with it during the day and then I get home and have a glass of wine and then find myself halting and flipping sides.
If he really wants to meet her, I think he should as I do think it would continue to improve our bonding and intimacy that we've lost, but I can't keep losing control of my emotions and turning him off from this. I of course am his first concern and I don't want to be sending him these mixed signals. I'm just to the point of "Please, go meet her already and see there is some sort of attraction".
He said if he really wanted to, he would have already. Maybe he is seeing she might not be the right one, but at the same time and I hate to say this in disrespect to her, but he's pretty much decided that she's sort of the experiment woman to see if he can do this, if he likes it and if he can handle it. I don't see him dating her long term given the fact that eventually she is going to start wanting more from him and he's not going to be able to give that to her.
As of a minute ago, when we were texting, I told him I really think he should go meet her to:
a) see how he feels about getting to know another woman and whether he can do it or not.
b) if there is even any attraction in person. They've only seen face shots of one another.
c) to see how I'm going to feel with him gone. I think it's the only way for me to decide how I really feel about it and to put some of my irrational fears to rest.
So, as I don't work tomorrow and know I won't sleep well till he comes home, I told him tonight would be a perfect night to meet her since I don't work tomorrow. He was going to see if that works for her and let me know. I know that if I remain calm and cool and knowing that he's not loving me any less in doing this, that I will be OK and benefit from it.