Originally Posted by Ariakas
Depends on the cheater. Did the cheater cheat because of an addiction to the act of being a cheater.
Or did the person just want the freedom to bang/love other people.
You missed the cheater that has lost intimate connection with thier current partner and is in the relationship because of external factors....future planning, house, finances, good life team, etc, etc. That''s the type I was. I wasn't looking for any freedom and certainly wasn't addicted to cheating. I lacked something and wound up finding it somewhere else.
If I had of worked on maintaining that connection then I doubt I ever would have strayed.
I don't cheat any more. I've learned enough to let go honestly if I was to loose connection.