Very glad to read that y'all are hangin' in there!
I'll add one bit about jealousy...it never fully goes away. But what really helps for me is to stop and think "Is this jealousy coming out of selfishness?" And you know what? For me, 9 times outta 10, it is!
I have to stop and tell myself "Don't be selfish! They deserve some fun too!"
If it's real bad, I'll just tell my partners..."Hey...I felt a little left out yesterday. It's not your fault...it's just me....but can I be the center of attention tonight please? I'd really appreciate it." With that calm, up-front honesty and sincerity, the results are great.