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Old 04-26-2011, 04:13 PM
RobFire RobFire is offline
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Milford, Michigan
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Default Primary, Secondary, etc...

In my situation, should it ever go in the poly direction again, there'd definitely be a distinction between my foundational relationship and others. I do not think I could possibly compare an 11 year relationship built on trust, communication and commitment, to a new relationship.

I think, particularly given most upbringing and socialization in this country, it is easier for some to accept the idea of a primary relationship as it retains some of the perceived stability of a mono structure.

As far a secondaries, some have mentioned to me that being secondary might be some sort of slight, or raw deal. To me, it's just a choice. It also does not preclude finding someone else to enter into a possible primary relationship with (without sacrificing the secondary relationship)
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