Originally Posted by BlackUnicorn
... my impression is that most people 'stumble' upon polyamory while in a previously-monogamous relationship that is no longer working.
I wanted to highlight this section and repeat something that has often been said: if the previously-monogamous relationship is no longer working, TURNING TO POLYAMORY WILL NOT FIX IT.
If that relationship is still important, it has to be fixed FIRST.
(That's where my wife and I are at this time.)