Quoting from Wayward's Personal Summaries
Originally Posted by Wayward
I currently do not have any interest in being in a relationship with an established couple. I don't want to be anyone's side-dish, or have my needs be considered second-to or less-than that of anyone else. Maybe as I learn more about the polyamorous lifestyle, I'll change this stance, who knows?
While some poly folk do have relationships which are structured in terms of a hierarchy of value or importance, many of us have no interest in such a hierarchy of value or importance. (Take me, for example.)
As I see it, hierarchy of value/importance applies best (and most frequently) to "friends with benefits" sorts of relationships which are mainly sexual in nature, rather than mainly oriented toward the broad spectrum of intimacy that includes emotional and spiritual bonding. A loving relationship is something else, altogether. And I would not rank my loves, nor classify them. Love is love is love is love, whether it is a new love or one of long duration, and regardless of living or not living together status.