Have you had conflicts where 2 pitted themselves against one already?
Do you all live together?
Are there children in the mix, or planned for?
BTW, some would call your triad poly-fidelitous, or poly-fi for short.
There's a guy here in a poly-fi triad with 2 other men that seems to be working out great.... I need to look him up and remember his sn.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)