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Old 04-25-2011, 04:06 AM
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Originally Posted by nycindie View Post
I don't see your situation as darkly as RP does, as far as what your girlfriend did.
Sorry if you think this is my take, I was trying to offer something no one else had until I posted. For some, what she did could be make or break in terms of entirely trusting again. I am hoping that this is not the case for you... it does happen and understandably so.
Originally Posted by nycindie View Post
Learning to trust again is not dependent only upon my partner's behavior, but on how I work through it.
This was my point also, just in a more positive way. Again, its up to you what your path is. I would always suggest chalking this up to lesson learned, but that doesn't mean that blind trust is the answer either. I believe in trust where it is earned, she has taken a step back from where you were with trust and I for one, think she needs to earn that back over time and in baby steps... as I mentioned before.

She is not a failure or not worth it... just not ready to be in a poly situation yet and create a healthy environment for her or you. Now you know, now you can work on it more.
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