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Old 04-24-2011, 05:28 PM
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Obviously, you both have strong ideas about what you would be comfortable with. Both of you are having pangs of jealousy. I think you need to sit down and really hash it out, get down deep and discuss your feelings - and ask WHY his being with another woman feels threatening to you. And ask WHY he doesn't want you with another man. Jealousy usually covers over other, more raw feelings. Looks like you two need to get it all out in the open and come to an agreement in which all the bases are covered, before moving forward.
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