Are you KIDDING ME?
"Do it the way I want or I will leave and take your son away and you will be alone" *IS* blackmail. It may be borne out of hurt and it may be a raw reaction, but it *IS* blackmail.
I am giving it time. I am holding my tongue. I am going to go talk to the counselor again, and she has agreed to as well. I know that decisions made in the heat of the moment are almost always ones that will be regretted.
But honest to Christ, if I'd known I'd be signing up for this, I might have just kept my goddamned mouth shut and dealt with all of the shit and self-hatred.