Originally Posted by dragonflysky
I'm with you on this one. If he could manage to set things up to go to a concert and not be too worried about leaving wife and baby at home.....he surely could have managed to come see you as you asked.
This. If something as unimportant as a concert can get him away from home, then visiting a partner in need wouldn't be a problem.
He's established a pattern. If you think it's going to change, shame on you. What people do is a much better indicator of what they actually think and feel and his actions indicate you simply aren't important to him.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.