I already answered you this at home but let me just take this opportunity to expand on that. I always think of these things long after the after the conversation is over and since talking has never really worked for us maybe text will be better.
When you ask me if I'm okay with something or if something is a problem I don't trust that you really care what my answer is. I believe you just want to hear me say whatever you're going to do anyway regardless of what I might think or feel about something. In the past when I've expressed discomfort, disagreement or flat out said no, it hasn't changed your behavior one bit. So am I okay with you with you posting here because it might hurt? My answer is not really that I don't care, it's that I think you don't care how I answer that question. So why should I state a position one way or the other?
What I don't understand is why you're only just now coming here when a lot of things might have been done differently or been avoided altogether if this had been done sooner. The only conclusion I can draw from that is that I wasn't worth the effort but she is. However, I also don't really believe you can do slow and deliberate and your words are just that - words, but no action. I've seen this before.
So post here if you must, it's my choice to read it or not, although I suspect that in a couple months none of this will matter much to me anyway.