I am quite amazed at your perceptions from what I wrote and I think you are entirely correct both at what my concerns seem in terms of what she has told her and in terms of I perceive. She has a history of "being a snake in the grass" (her words describing her past relationships). Complete honesty is something I am trying to encourage in both of us I dealing not only with ourselves but with others outside of "us" as well. I like your advice of bluntness and being direct. Something I will keep in mind. Thank you for your advice!