Originally Posted by LovingRadiance
We agreed to maintain separate homes for at least 6 months, not talking about my relationship with GG, 1 day a week for no more than 2 hours to talk about our relationship issues, continue practicing the communication skills we've been learning-but using less "boiling" topics, working on our lists of what we want in life and marriage (that's for the therapist-so we CAN build a future), among other things.
This seems like a very reasonable and positive path to be on.
I hope I didn't come off too harshly in my previous comment -- I hesitated to post it because it was pretty blunt and I didn't want you to feel attacked, but in the end I decided it would be best to be straightforward about my take on the situation, on the off chance that maybe leaving would in fact be the best thing for you and it would help to get a nudge. Leaving my ex was the right thing for us and for our situation, but that doesn't mean it's the right thing for you guys or ever will be. I admire your ability to be so clear and articulate about what you're doing and why.