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Old 04-21-2011, 02:31 AM
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Originally Posted by LovingRadiance View Post
Taking space hasn't ever been a threat for me. It's simply not been an opportunity due to the percieved threat to others.
But see, LR, even just saying this is a way of blaming someone else. Your mindset is self-victimizing, if that is a term. If you want space, need space, take it. Instead, you're always giving yourself and Maca homework to do and contracts to sign. And then you get upset when he goes back and forth. Just work on you and let go of hopes and expectations.

I suggest you read Ilove2men's post again and again and again - carefully, very carefully, line by line, and let it sink in. Lots of wisdom there.
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