One thing I've been learning about in very recent years--which is blowing my mind--is how unique and individual so many people are. I had no idea!
Keep this in mind next time you want to say "but I've seen people come in here like...".
It's hard just with the written word to address this stuff, concisely. Just know I ain't shaking my finger at you when I say what I say above. We're all learning if we're paying attention. Ain't none of us got it all figured out.